It’s an argument before #Metoo and after it, this isn’t related to the campaign, but to defend the people who say that we are creating a fear of flirting and it might be mistaken for harassment and an innocent gesture might end a well-meaning man’s career.
So, What is the difference between harassment, flirting and offering sex? Unfortunately, many wise men, fall in that debate, maybe they are our friends, brothers or men we care about.
Women love to be flirted with, but on the other hand, we hate to be harassed.
Many men don’t know the difference and how to get his girl, maybe he is honest and respectable, but he isn’t respecting his girls’ borders and finally, he’s messing things up.
According to the writer, Lauren Holter and I totally agree with her “There are fundamental distinctions between flirting and harassment (in fact, one is illegal and one is not); and Women know the difference”.
To be clear: No one is trying to outlaw flirting. Flirting includes holding eye contact for a few extra seconds, asking how someone's weekend was, laughing at their jokes, and saving them the last office bagel before someone else nabs it.
Flirting is not locking women in your office; exposing your penis to someone who doesn't want to see it; buying a co-worker a sex toy; telling a junior employee they'll be promoted if they sleep with you, or threatening to ruin their career if they don't.
It is not unsolicited shoulder rubs, staring at someone from across the office all day, asking an employee about their sex life, or behaving in a way that would make them uncomfortable.
So, why people were confused whether the “On The Run” girl is being flirted or harassed or had an offer. It’s clear throw the girl’s talk that, the boy was chasing her for a long time, from his car and when she refused to respond to him, he showed up for her, then she captured him, flirting doesn’t mean to chase someone or causing him/her to be afraid, also offering sex is to someone either a sex worker or a girl you are in a relationship with.
Staring at a girls’ boobs or her whole body isn’t flirting, its harassment, starting a chat with a girl for the first time and asking her for personal photos isn’t flirting. Mentioning your sexual abilities to a woman who’s not a friend neither a lover without her acceptance isn’t flirting, lewd comments, inappropriate personal questions, and an invasion of personal space, they are all sexual misconduct obviously and clearly to be harassment.
The harasser is only searching for his fun, and most of the times make his movements in hidden ways, but the person who's flirting wants his girl also to be happy.
According to Lauren Holter through her blog, she said that flirting is used to subtly show your interest in someone and try to gauge if they feel the same. Sexual harassment, on the other hand, constitutes a total disregard for the other person's feelings. And assuming women don't know the difference between the two is just insulting.
Women have the experience to know what flirting is as they are trying their entire lives to hide these feelings through their captured eyes, sudden movements to grape attention or extra attention.
About offering sex, you have to be either in a tight relationship with her and you know that she will understand your offer and needs, or she’s a sex worker or a girl that likes you and offering you having sex together, but remember yes doesn’t mean yes at always and yes for everything, even if she’s your wife or girlfriend you have to ask her acceptance every time, you have to respect her times and her needs.
so it's clear now that when the Egyptian footballer Amr Warda showed his penis in a video, that he wasn't offering love, it was harassment and no means no.
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